“What happened to us” you wonder. “We used to be so in love”
You’re staring off into the distance aren’t you? Zoning out of reality because it’s all getting a little too tiresome.
That row has reared it’s ugly head again, and chips away at you a little bit more.
Now you’re fantasising about a life without them in it, you feel brighter, there’s less tension in your shoulders, for a second you think about how great it could be to be solo, who you could be & where you could go.
But then, as quickly as that thought arrived, it leaves you again, in its place comes fear, doubt, and a little voice that says “leaving would cause too much drama”.
You’ve been dancing with this for a while, should you stay or should you go. While you know the signs point to exit, a part of you is wavering.
“How would I cope?”
“What about the mortgage/kids – both”
“I’ll be a failure”
“People will judge me”
“It’s just too risky, it’s safer to stay”
“I don’t know how to be alone”
”Maybe this time it’ll be different”
You’ve got a lot of history together, thee’s been a lot of love there, it would be so hard to start again, what if you were single forever, what if, what if, what if…
It’s a real rollercoaster isn’t it? I’ve been on that particular ride and it’s tough to get off of it for good. I hope that one morning you wake up and your heart & mind have come together to decide not to do this anymore, that the scary idea of leaving & starting over, isn’t as scary as the prospect of staying and fading away into indifference.
You won’t see this message if you don’t want to. Because you’ve not been there in that pain & frustration for long enough; you’re still convincing yourself it’ll get better.
But perhaps today is the day, the day you needed to see this. The day you decide that you won’t spend one more day of your life unhappy.
If that’s you, and you need help to navigate your exit strategy, then I’m here for you. You don’t have to do this alone.