Courageous Communicators: How to communicate honestly, listen without ego, and say what you really mean to your nearest and dearest without fear.
Why does this even matter? Because we all know how it feels not to be really heard. We all know what it feels like when someone cuts across us when we are mid sentence. We have all at some point or another, sat on something that we really want to say. It feels horrible doesn’t it. That knot in your tummy, that tightness in your throat. You imagine saying the words out loud, you might even do a countdown in your head “when I get to zero I’ll say it” and yet still you don’t.
This isn’t just happening to you, this is happening to all the people that are most important to you. Your partner, your family, your friends, and your children.
Every single one of them is having the same struggles.
Now, you have an opportunity to shift the way you communicate so that they in turn can shift theirs.
A couple of years ago in a survey I posed a question.
On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your communication? Some of the people that took part were couples. None of them had the same score, in fact a lot of them were opposite ends of the spectrum.
These people are telling their partners that all is well, when in truth they’ve got stuff they want to share but can’t. One because they are unsure of how to say it and if they are safe to, and secondly because of how it might be received.
That is not good news for relationships, that’s the stuff that slowly but surely over time eats away at us, until resentment starts to build, and then one random Wednesday morning, an argument about why there is no milk left escalates into something a lot bigger and more destructive.
I don’t want that for you, or for the people that you care about.
You ask anyone what the most important thing is in a relationship, and up near the top of the list will be ‘Communication’. But we don’t work on it do we? We learn to talk when we are babies, we learn to ask for what we need in terms of food, entertainment, material items. We learn how to ask for a hug, but we don’t learn anything about how to communicate our deepest feelings, and we don’t learn how to actively listen either.
Now is your chance.
This is the time, this course is going to change the way you communicate with your nearest and dearest for the better, forever if you embrace it.
I don’t want families breaking down, I don’t want adults projecting stuff onto kids that they haven’t dealt with themselves, and I don’t want your ego in the drivers seat of your life either.
Communication is a skill and this course will give you the tools you need to up your skills no end.
The question is, what will you do now? This is a chance for you to transform your relationships across the board, to up your relationship health massively. But you have to be honest about your start point. Would you and your significant other score the same out of 10? If you think so, then this probably isn’t for you. But if you’re not sure, or if you recognise the importance of healthy communication then keep reading. This course is going to really help you out.
I created this course to help more couples, families and friends to feel happier, more connected, heard and understood.
I won’t lie; this course won’t always feel easy for all of you. There will be questions that give you that ‘icky’ feeling from time to time. BUT, I promise you that the work is absolutely worth it. So much so that I get teary-eyed just thinking about it. The world needs more human beings saying what they mean, and being able to do that safely.
What a game changer this is going to be.
When? We kick off on Monday 16th March 2020 at 8pm
Where? Online. With a private Facebook Group just for course participants, and nobody else.
How does it work?
- Each week for 4 weeks I will go Live in the group at 8:00pm on Monday evening. These “lives” will be anywhere from 30 – 45 minutes.
- Even though the start date is 16th March, you can take the course at your own pace, and work it to fit in with your own timetable.
- There will be 4 different modules over the 4 weeks.
- A separate “Live” Q&A session each Thursday evening at 8pm.
- Every week there will be a journaling questions to go alongside each module for you to complete.
- Access to a private Facebook Group, where you can share your stories and experiences in the safety of smaller numbers.
- Lifetime access to the course, meaning that you’ll automatically receive any new material as the course evolves without any further investment.
This Course is not for you if….
You aren’t prepared to look at the stuff. Yes, its uncomfortable sometimes, but there is learning, knowledge and power in that space. Quite often we are where we are because we are avoiding discomfort at all costs. This group will be safe and supportive I promise.
If you think talking about feelings and emotions is a waste of time. I genuinely believe that all the answers we seek are inside us, and by thinking out loud and talking about our stuff, we see those answers swimming into focus. If that’s not your bag, then that’s cool.
You don’t want to be vulnerable. The likelihood is that it’s going to happen at some point. I could be mid-way through a “live” or you could be completing the questions in your workbook when you find yourself blindsided by a belief you didn’t even know that you had. That’s totally okay and part of the process.
This course is for you if….
You are tired of the way things are. Yes, you may well feel unsure, and anxious. You may well feel lost, invisible and shattered. During the course we’ll be looking at what’s going on for all of you and how we can minimise these feelings and forge ahead.
You can be open and honest. Its crucially important to me that in this type of group set-up, every woman that comes in is committed to acting from a place of kindness and support towards the other group members.
You are ready to invest in yourself. This is a real sticking point for a lot of women, who put themselves last and don’t see themselves as worth investing in. You really truly are, and this is a chance for you to get a powerful taste of just how great it is to do so. Amazing stuff starts to happen when you realise how valuable you are.
Okay Rach, it sounds ace, but I still need more information.
Here you go….
Lets start with a history lesson. We’ll kick off with a look at your communication style by getting clear on what you observed growing up. How your parents interacted with each other, and what stories you created as a result of that. This isn’t about sitting in the past, its about recognising a theme. This is Coaching not therapy after all. We’ll also be looking at where you are now in terms of communication health, and what you know you want to improve. Including where you hold back & with who, and any games that are being played.
Next up. Why aren’t you saying what you really want to? Which stories are you telling yourself about how what you have to say will be received, and where is your proof of that? This is the module where we look at the repeat offenders, those arguments that crop up again and again and what is really going on. We are going to get to the heart of the matter once and for all. To get you clear and focused on the needs and wants that you’ve been hiding away.
Week 3 is about how to actively listen. We all think we are great listeners, but its a skill that we have to keep working at to strengthen. I thought I was a great listener, and then I trained to become a Coach. Eyes well and truly opened. In this module you will learn to listen without your ego getting in the way. That has a lot to answer for. Once you can actively listen from a place of calm and safety in yourself, you’ll completely transform how you communicate.
In this final week we will be bringing everything together and looking at how to communicate using the healthiest language we can. I’m not talking about removing swear words, but more about how we word things, and how they potentially land on other people. This is where we get confident in our communication and look at where the judgements that trip us up come from. This module also covers boundaries and setting your own communication rules.
Please note: Even though I have planned structure for the weekly sessions, I will also tweak them so that it reflects the needs of the group. You will still get amazing content and value, but our topics won’t be set in stone, and may change to encompass other areas as well.
Spaces on the course are limited to 40, including the 5 VIP spots, AND 5 “Pay What You Can” spaces. as I want to retain an intimate feel to the group where everyone can be heard. So, if you want to be part of this amazing course and community, and get yourself unstuck, then make sure you book your slot now.
If you’re not sure if the course is for you, then just drop me a message via the contact form and we can talk it through.
Once you’ve booked on, then just sit back and relax. Before the course starts you will be emailed the link to the private Facebook Group, and that’s it. You’ll be ready to go!
Refunds will only be available until the commencement date of the course. After which, they will only be issued in exceptional circumstances. Your signing up to the course confirms your acceptance of this.