I know I know, Coronavirus doesn’t fall under the remit of family estrangement. But, as a Coach that is seeing and hearing from a lot of very anxious women at the moment, I wanted to put this together in the hope that it will help some of you to take a breathe, and settle into calm.
This is new territory for all of us. Its so easy to get swept up in fear, but you don’t have to.
Hear me out…
First of all. You control what you consume, you do not have to listen to any of it, or you can limit how much information you do absorb and from where. I have set my own boundaries around this. I check the BBC website once a day at a time where things are relatively quiet, and then I turn it off.
You also control your own experience, not of the virus itself which I hope none of you get, but you control how you feel about this. You can choose to not join in with the panic mentality, set up your own self care practices around this, get curious about your feelings, and do it your way.
Watch out for Drama Queens. If you see a social media post that is FULL OF CAPITALS AND !!!!…then avoid it. Some people thrive off of drama, and want to drag others into that game with them because it feels good to their subconscious. In all likelihood they grew up in environments where there was always drama, and so without realising it, they seek it out all the time. Its not their fault, but still, give them a wide berth.
Be honest about your capacity. If you have friends that are anxious, if you are usually the person that they vent to, and you currently don’t have the mental bandwidth for that, then you need to speak up and say that whilst you love them, you cannot currently support them in the way that you they want you to.
Take this one day at a time. Our need for control means we constantly try and predict outcomes to things (which is futile). We have no idea what the world is going to look like in the next few months, but you get to choose what your world looks like for the next 24 hours. Put one foot in front of the other.
Don’t wear your judgey pants. Right now there is huge room for judgement. In particular judging other peoples choices around how they are going about their lives. Its different for each of us, so lead with kindness wherever you can.