Hey there gorgeous human! I’m Rachel and I’m an Intuitive Relationship Coach. Which means I work with gloriously imperfect humans on a 1:1 basis to help them transform their relationships, both with themselves and with others, so that they can move forward with their lives powerfully and with peace of mind.
I’m a former codependent badge wearer, emotional and psychological abuse victim, and general responsibility avoidance expert. I spent a great deal of my 20’s and 30’s putting problems and challenges in my own way, and hiding behind the sofa so that life didn’t really happen to me. It was simply an existence.
Three years ago I hit an all time low. I was miserable at work and I had recently been through a miscarriage. I needed help, and a woman called Liz was it. Liz was my Coach and someone I am now proud to call a friend. My first email to her stated that I wanted to change my career. So why within 20 minutes of my first session were we discussing the toxic relationship I had with my Dad?
Because the issue wasn’t the issue. Yes I was unhappy at work, but that was the tip of the iceberg. On closer inspection I realised that I was unhappy in myself. I was holding onto a lot of pain from numerous destructive relationships and that pain was crippling me.
My lived experience up until that point had largely been one of me accepting poor behaviour in my relationships, including severe emotional abuse, and of being stuck in a cycle of codependent behaviour myself. It wasn’t healthy, it was suffocating, but it’s what I knew and I had no idea how to get out.
I was terrified of what might be on the other side of my stories, of what would happen to me, and who I would be without them. Turns out the answer is that I would be free, happy and a better, healthier version of myself. The work we did went deep into who I was as a person then, the lies I had been feeding myself, where my own destructive patterns came from, and gave me a path to freedom too.
I see you, I want you to know that. I get how stuck you feel, how hopeless it can all seem, how hard it can feel to offer yourself a kind word somedays. But I promise you that you don’t have to stay in that place. You can go somewhere new, be someone different, have relationships that nourish and uplift you rather than draining all your energy, hurting your heart and soul, and leave you feeling like shite.
I am so bloody excited to get to know you, I already know you are an amazing human, capable of all that you want. I am going to help you to see all of that too.